These methods are used across my deposits, cancellation fees, and total rate in-person at the start of a date. You may use a combination to cover a certain amount if needed, but choosing one method is preferable.
A few things to note:
- Compensation is for my time and companionship only.
- I do not offer refunds, but I do have reschedule policies that you may utilize!
- I do prefer full advance payment if possible, so that we may begin our time together uninterrupted by formality. If this appeals to you, please let me know. Dates with full advance payment will not incur any cancellation/reschedule fees.
This page will be updated as I experiment and learn more about these tools, so please be patient with me!
Physical cash (USD)
Not used for deposits/cancellations.
Please place the amount (large bills, please!) in an unsealed envelope.
At the start of a date, if we are meeting privately, place the envelope in plain view, without mention, and excuse yourself to freshen up. Publicly, please tuck it in a gift bag, card, or a book; do not just pass me the envelope. Once these matters are sorted, we may fully allow ourselves to enjoy each other’s company.
Venmo
My username is @hello-em on Venmo. https://venmo.com/u/hello-em
When sending payment, do not put anything sexual or explicit in your payment description. I will request you use a single emoji as your description.
Fees: There is no cash advance fee to pay with an existing Venmo balance, bank account, or debit card. Credit card payments will typically incur roughly a 3% cash advance fee.
- Deposits/cancellations: No additional processing fee.
- In-person: Additional 1.75% processing fee (maximum of $25) for doing an instant transfer
- $299.99 weekly sending limit without identity verification
- $60,000 weekly sending limit after identity verification
Pros:
- None/lowest additional fees
- Higher sending limit compared to CashApp
Cons:
- Takes some time to set up an account and get identity verification for increasing account sending limits. Check out Throne, another payment method described below, if you are not interested in creating an account.
- Uses your personal information to create an account, but your payments can be anonymous.
Account set up links:
Instructions to sign up for a personal Venmo Account
Identity Verification to remove sending limits (not required, but highly recommended)
Adding your bank account to your account (recommended to avoid cash advance fees)
Connect your credit card to your account (payments include an additional cash advance fee)
CashApp
My username is $helloemli on CashApp. https://cash.app/$helloemli
When sending payment, do not put a payment note. Or if you choose to do so, only use a single emoji. Do not put anything sexual or explicit.
Fees:
- Deposits/cancellations: No additional processing fee.
- In-person: Additional 1.75% processing fee (no maximum limit) for doing an instant transfer
- Before identity verification: $1000 per month
- After identity verification: $4000 per week
Pros:
- Similar to Venmo in the no/low additional fees
- Higher sending limit than Venmo without identity verification
Cons:
- Can only use bank account for funds, not credit card
- Takes some time to set up an account and get identity verification for increasing account sending limits. Check out Throne, another payment method described below, if you are not interested in creating an account.
- Uses your personal information to create an account, but your payments can be anonymous.
- Has a sending limit, even after identity verification
Account set up links:
Instructions to sign up for a CashApp account (If you’d like, you can sign up using my code and we’ll each get $5 on the app: 6CSS93G)
Identity Verification to increase sending limits (not required, but highly recommended)
Throne
My Throne link is throne.com/emli
Processing fee: Roughly 8% total
I use Vietnamese dish names for my different deposits. Mappings:
- $200 (Example: 1 hour date deposit): Chè (total after processing fee is roughly $216.39)
- $500 (Example: 3 hour date deposit): Bánh xèo (total after processing fee is roughly $540.53)
- More to be added later…
Pros:
- Quickest method to use if you don’t want to create any accounts or use any personal information.
Cons:
- Processing fee is higher than other methods (less than other wishlist sites like Wishtender though)
Cryptocurrency
I prefer to work in cash when possible, but this method is available as well.
No additional fee: My Coinbase email address to send BTC (Bitcoin) or ETH (Ethereum) to is date.emli@pm.me
Small additional network fee: I can send my unique one-time wallet address by request if you do not use Coinbase.
There are no sending limits, but there are some funding source limits, which you can find more information about here.
Instructions to sign up for a Coinbase account (requires identity verification)
Gift cards
This method is not eligible for payment of the total rate in-person at the start of a date.
Use of this payment method for deposits/cancellations is subject to approval at my discretion.
Some upper limits for gift cards amounts
Amazon: $2000
Lyft: $100
Uber: $500
Delta airlines: $2000